First off, it’s okay to have negative thoughts, we all have them, it’s normal. Everyone has both the devil and the angel in them, sometimes the devil grows stronger and sometimes it’s the other way round. But you know by the name itself that negative thoughts are negative, so it’s okay to have them but not good. Now imagine a situation. In a corner of your mind, there are two warriors, one is powerful and other one is a bit scared (or as much scared as you are). Let’s name them Mr. Negative and Mr. Positive, since we’re talking about negative thoughts, let’s name the powerful warrior as Mr. Negative.
Now, the scared warrior, our Mr. Positive lies there defeated, our mission is simple, to feed and train Mr. Positive so much so that it gets up, fights Mr. Negative, defeats him and rules the kingdom of your mind. I know it might sound stupid, but no harm in talking nonsense which develops into some sense later, right?
So now you’re aware of your basic task, but how to do it? Here are some ways, which if you try will work (only if you allow them).
— Say *Stop* whenever you encounter a negative thought. You’ll be flooded with negative thoughts, so you need to be willing to stop them, remember Mr. Negative only grows stronger if you don’t fight him. Stopping is going to be difficult, you’ll fail more times than you’ll actually succeed, but you just have to stick to your goal and keep asking Mr. Negative to stop until he finally does.
— Question back your negative thoughts and you’ll realize, all of them are just your fears and none of them is true. Say when you get the negative thought that you aren’t capable of anything in life, question it back and remind it of all the things you have and that life itself is full of opportunities and possibilities. We’re capable of a lot of things, we all are. Tell your negative side that you’ll prove it wrong.
— Have a set of beliefs, the ones which are true and not the ones your mind tells you. Say for example, a belief that real beauty lies in the heart and a face no matter how ugly or beautiful, doesn’t matter. Your mind will tell you that it isn’t so, because our society favours beautiful people. But let me tell you, the whole society is wrong and your that one belief is right. So all you gotta do is, stick to that belief and keep believing in it. Have more such beliefs, have a sense of your own being, get to know what’s right and hold on to that, strongly.
— Stop getting affected by people and what they say. People, well they’re going to say shit just to make you feel down, that will in turn fill your mind with insecurities and negativity. So when you know their source, you know what you need to do – shut them off. Let them say whatever they want to, but if that makes you feel bad in any way, be strong enough to either walk away or if you can’t, then don’t allow your mind to get affected from it. Remember, you feel bad only when you allow yourself to.
— Don’t let the monster feel like a monster.
So when we said the powerful warrior is Mr. Negative, we now know to not call it powerful. Call it the weakest and the most useless part, the kind which only seeks you to stop growing. So you don’t have to allow it to feel like it’s something huge. It’s a mere rotten part in your head which is supposed to be thrown out.
— Look for ways that bring positivity in you, watch videos, talk to positive people, stay away from the ones who make you feel bad about yourself, develop confidence, practise meditation, keep yourself busy and find a purpose for your life. Give way to positivity, allow it to nurture growth in you, know that you can only rise when you want to, and when you do efforts for it. Nothing comes easy, you gotta get up and start acting. We all have our ways, and we can find endless more ways to help ourselves. Look out, take the first step, be determined and you shall be there soon.